|On the Other Hand - Learning a lesson|
|Sunday, October 13, 2013 12:00 AM|
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and hoping for a different outcome. Crazy, right?
When we were children and dissatisfied with the outcome of a game, we would often yell, “Do over!” We would then repeat whatever we did hoping for a different outcome. Of course, that didn’t always happen and everyone knows you only get one do-over.
In golf, a do-over is a mulligan. As you can guess, a mulligan is not “legal” in the rules of golf. You are supposed to take the shot where it lands — good or bad. At some charity golf events, one can purchase mulligans as an additional fundraiser and since everyone is on the same page, it’s OK.
As adults, we often wish for a do-over so we can change the end result. As more mature individuals, we learn and try to accept that sometimes you only get one chance at something. You give it your all and hope for the best. Some of us make it, some don’t.
In life, there are few do-overs. You only get one chance to make a first impression, as they say. If you flub up a job interview, you rarely get a chance to go back and try it again. Most often, you just never hear from them again and it remains a burning regret in your gut.
Hopefully, we learn from our mistakes and the next time goes better. Some people never learn. They continue with the insanity.
There are things we can change or do over. We can work at becoming better people, better friends, better sons and daughters, better spouses, better mothers, etc.
They say history repeats itself and we need to learn from the past so the outcome the second time around is perhaps a bit more favorable. I think it’s the learning part that’s important. You just have to be willing and see the pattern to break it.
It’s easy to point the finger of blame but at the end of the day, if we don’t learn so the next time is better, all is for naught.